Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Selfish for Future
I have this one situation. One of my dearly friend's mum has pop up this one question to my friend, which of course about marriage. She's in her 25+ but still below 30. Yeah, this will of course put some pressure on her and a lil bit of depressed. She's taken and has been in the relationship for 1 year plus. From what she had told me, her feeling towards her current boyfriend, 'tak adalah sayang sangat'. It means normal. Don't have spark. If broke out pun, will not be a BIG PROBLEM to her.
Ok to make it simple, her mother has asked her about her current relationship and to what my friend has observe from her boyfriend's financial and future plan, she see NOTHING and if she does, it will take a long long time. Bayangkan she's now in 25-30, her mum keep pushing her about married thingy. As a lady, of course she feel unsecured, u know the terms of ANDARTU. Wauu! Dats preety scary peeps. So her mum has this one friend that has this one gentleman in his 25+ but still below 30 that she gave birth too. Meaning his son lah. He wanted to get married and searching for the future wife. The best part is he dont want the dating thingy, if nak dating pun must bring along the parents or siblings. I love that part ok. Bercinta after kahwin is so much fun. He has a very stable financial, great career, a car, a house. Pendek kata, if my friend get married to him, her life will totally change. Dont have to think about money, all of it been provided ok!
But the problem is she's in a relationship. She's stuck with the guilty feeling if she broke up with her boyfriend. But she's keep thinking about her future. What if that? What if this? Must she be selfish to protect her future? Or she should just keep her relationship with her current boyfriend to avoid guilty?What do u guys think?