Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Selfish for Future



I have this one situation. One of my dearly friend's mum has pop up this one question to my friend, which of course about marriage. She's in her 25+ but still below 30. Yeah, this will of course put some pressure on her and a lil bit of depressed. She's taken and has been in the relationship for 1 year plus. From what she had told me, her feeling towards her current boyfriend, 'tak adalah sayang sangat'. It means normal. Don't have spark. If broke out pun, will not be a BIG PROBLEM to her.

Ok to make it simple, her mother has asked her about her current relationship and to what my friend has observe from her boyfriend's financial and future plan, she see NOTHING and if she does, it will take a long long time. Bayangkan she's now in 25-30, her mum keep pushing her about married thingy. As a lady, of course she feel unsecured, u know the terms of ANDARTU. Wauu! Dats preety scary peeps. So her mum has this one friend that has this one gentleman in his 25+ but still below 30 that she gave birth too. Meaning his son lah. He wanted to get married and searching for the future wife. The best part is he dont want the dating thingy, if nak dating pun must bring along the parents or siblings. I love that part ok. Bercinta after kahwin is so much fun. He has a very stable financial, great career, a car, a house. Pendek kata, if my friend get married to him, her life will totally change. Dont have to think about money, all of it been provided ok!

But the problem is she's in a relationship. She's stuck with the guilty feeling if she broke up with her boyfriend. But she's keep thinking about her future. What if that? What if this? Must she be selfish to protect her future? Or she should just keep her relationship with her current boyfriend to avoid guilty?What do u guys think?

10 comments:

Orkedanza said...

selfish for future??

suka topic ni..so nak comment..heee :p

1stly nak tanye..bf that gurl tu lelaki yg cmne. i mean die tu org yg berwawasan or x. dr situ br dpt nk ckp selfish ke x. kalau bf die tu jenis yg mmg xde wawasan...mls keje..xberusaha untuk maju kedepan..melepak je keje..mmg patut si gf bertindak. zaman sekarang ni...kdg2 perlu sikit selfish(ikut keadaan). kalau rasa kasih, sayang cinta xkuat mana kat lelaki tu..then future pun kurang..nk tunggu ape lg.

tp klu si bf tu jenis yg tgh berusaha keras nak majukan diri die n utk future famly die..kalau nak move on to lelaki lain yg better then bf skrg..kesian jgak kat si bf tu.

Emira Darmia said...

selfish for the sake of being happy...
yea baby..

Huda Luna said...

in first place current bf dia keje ape?


weh seyes tersepit!
aku pun xleh nk pk.
xkn nk selfish?

Ainee Cumi said...

ORKENDANZA: Entahlah berwawasan ke tak tapi sampai skang tak ada kerja tetap lagi. Maybe tak ada rezeki lagi kot. Plus current bf dia nak kerja KL tak mau kerja kat Ipoh ni, lagi ahh kusut otak kawan I sebab taraf hidup kat KL kan tinggi. Kesian my friend. Umur dah 25++, mak dah push suwuh kawin, tapi sipi sipi nak kawin pun tak nampak. Buat entri ni sebab nak tolong dia sikit sikit buat decision. Jodoh semua kan di tangan Allah. Allah takkan mengaturkan hidup kita untuk terjun ke dalam kesusahan melainkan kita. Takpe, nanti Aini cakap kat dia. Thanx sangat.. =))

Ainee Cumi said...

KAK EMIRA: 2 vote. Gyeah!

Ainee Cumi said...

HUDA: Tak ada kerja lagi. Kadang-kadang kita kena selfish huda. Haa macam si Nora Elena tu mula mula memang tak cinta tapi lepas tu aummm. Ahahhahah!

mawa omot said...

salam
saya ade kawan mcm tu..dalam keadaan sama.. tpi dy seorg yg ape2 pon mesti ikut keputusan fmily..dy khwin dgn laki tu wlpun ade reltion dgn laki lain.. terpaksa..

tpi sebenrnya ade hikmah.. dy lebih bahagia dgn suami skrg dan bersyukur xdikahwin kn dgn bf dy.. sebb smpai skrg bf dy xkhwin.. mknenya kalau sesorg laki blom ade pape hasrt wlpn dy bf kiter kiter mesti ikut ckp ubu bapa.. setiap perkara ade hikmah awak... dgrlahhh

kiter xthu perkara yg trbaik untuk kiter tpi mak ayah kiter tahu..dy mkn garm dulu pada kiter... hikmah tuhan tiada siapa thu :)

Ainee Cumi said...

MAWA OMOT: Oh mai. U so sweet. I must show this comment that u left to my friend. Mesti dia pun terharu baca kata kata u. Tenkiu so much for ur opinion, for ur nasihat.

Huda Luna said...

haah. betul gak mawa omot tu cakap

Ainee Cumi said...

HUDA: Aku pun sokong weyh. Semua yang terjadi sure ada hikmah

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